Posts Tagged ‘MBTI’

What kind of person are you??

May 10, 2010

 Don’t you just love those personality quizzes in magazines and on Facebook? Anyone and his dog can offer to tell you what kind of horse, film star, lover, cat, star wars persona etc etc etc you are?

Even kid’s magazines have them – are you a Gabriella or a Sharpay, a Troy or a Chad? What kind of best friend are you? Who’s your fashion icon?

We seem to just LOVE being told who we are, and like with the Facebook quizzes, when the result is not to flattering, we just don’t share it with our friends…I’ll even admit to going back and answering the questions again to try to come up with a more favourable result! What a cheat!

Here’s the serious point: how far do you let other people define you….and then proudly wear their definition like a badge?

I’ve even seen it done with some of the serious, well respected and well researched personality and trait  indicators that are widely used in the corporate sector – I’ve heard people anounce that they are an ABC or whatever as a reason (one might unfavourably say “an excuse” ) for their behaviour. It’s as if they’re saying ‘this is my type, this is what I am, so this is what you can expect from me”.  

I’m sure I hardly need say that these bona fide personailty tests were not devised for people to use them as an escape route!

It does raise an interesting point, though. Throughout our lives, we’re allow ourselves to be defined by things other than ourselves: our family, our friends, where we live, our qualifications (or lack of), our politcial affiliations. There is bound to come a time when these definitions will be limiting, and if we believe in them too strongly, they’ll hold us back.

Maybe it’s time to start defining and refining ourselves (honestly, not arrogantly) rather than allowing everyone else to do it for us.