What kind of person are you??

 Don’t you just love those personality quizzes in magazines and on Facebook? Anyone and his dog can offer to tell you what kind of horse, film star, lover, cat, star wars persona etc etc etc you are?

Even kid’s magazines have them – are you a Gabriella or a Sharpay, a Troy or a Chad? What kind of best friend are you? Who’s your fashion icon?

We seem to just LOVE being told who we are, and like with the Facebook quizzes, when the result is not to flattering, we just don’t share it with our friends…I’ll even admit to going back and answering the questions again to try to come up with a more favourable result! What a cheat!

Here’s the serious point: how far do you let other people define you….and then proudly wear their definition like a badge?

I’ve even seen it done with some of the serious, well respected and well researched personality and trait  indicators that are widely used in the corporate sector – I’ve heard people anounce that they are an ABC or whatever as a reason (one might unfavourably say “an excuse” ) for their behaviour. It’s as if they’re saying ‘this is my type, this is what I am, so this is what you can expect from me”.  

I’m sure I hardly need say that these bona fide personailty tests were not devised for people to use them as an escape route!

It does raise an interesting point, though. Throughout our lives, we’re allow ourselves to be defined by things other than ourselves: our family, our friends, where we live, our qualifications (or lack of), our politcial affiliations. There is bound to come a time when these definitions will be limiting, and if we believe in them too strongly, they’ll hold us back.

Maybe it’s time to start defining and refining ourselves (honestly, not arrogantly) rather than allowing everyone else to do it for us.

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5 Responses to “What kind of person are you??”

  1. David Irvine Says:

    OK I would like to know what questions you answered twice and why ? Seriously though I feel definitions should always come with parameters and times, at any time in life the answers should be different but the vision should hopefully stay solid.
    I also imagine that people think when they see a quiz that is means something, who is to know that they are set up properly and correctly analyse answers, I believe they cannot as the answers are never multiple choice in reality they require free form text and this cannot be analysed yet by computers.

    • yaraconsulting Says:

      Yep I couldn’t agree more, thankfully nobody fits in a box. Everything is situation and time related and everything can change… It can be dangerous to start thinking along types or categories, use them as excuses.. or subconsciously start to form or reinforce self beliefs with all it’s consequences instead of choosing your own self image and behaviours (what hope would I ever have with Dutch stereo typing!).

      Better never believe what anyone says about how they think you are supposed to be and just be exactly how you want to be at any point in time. That said I have done some exciting quizes though that gave interesting food for thought! And Anna I’d love to hear too which questions you answered twice :0)

      Mel

    • yaraconsulting Says:

      And… I would love to know more by the way about your thoughts of a vision changing?

  2. David Irvine Says:

    Ok, after a while I have done it. My thoughts are if your vision changes it may show you were short sighted and believed what you saw was a summit, only to realise there’s more.

    So perhaps a vision is a feeling (happy, content, healthy, who knows?) and the stuff we see and believe are visions (including me here) are on the way towards that feeling we crave.

    • yaraconsulting Says:

      Interesting.. Yep I reckon that could be true. And it seems everything is an ongoing series of summits? Feelings seem not so much related to getting to any of the summits, or maybe just briefly. I guess one of the tricks is in choosing the right summits, those where we will most likely enjoy, learn and flourish during the climb.

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